It is an elusive situation. We can literally be blinded by how another person feels about us and completely ignore how we feel about ourselves in the circumstance. It can also be quite scary to even ask ourselves that question, but it can be quiet revealing as well. It can guide us toward the correct goals for ourselves and it can also deter us away from a path of unnecessary difficulty.

Recently a woman called me for a reading to ask about a job offer that she really wanted to take, but it would require a move to the east coast and a separation from a budding relationship. All of the aspects with the move and job looked great. I saw no problem in taking the offer. Of course a geographically inconvenient relationship would be a struggle, but I advised her that it would be worth the risk. As the reading progressed I sensed a lingering doubt about her moving forward in taking this job. Toward the end of our conversation I asked her why I sensed her hesitation in this move? She admitted that she herself felt that it would be a great opportunity, however she wanted to know how her dating partner felt about her and if it would be worth it to stay. Now, being that it is my profession to sense other peoples feelings, I was somehow thwarted! I could not for the life of me see or sense how the other person felt about my client while in this growing romance. Needless to say, I was frustrated and embarrassed that I could not answer, what was for me, such a routine question.

Succulent Flower by graftedno1

After an uncomfortable space in the conversation, I confessed to my lack of information in this matter.  My client was devastated and felt so confused and really did not want to mess up her life with such a rare opportunity in her career path.  Just then, like a lightening bolt, I heard “Ask her how she feels about  herself”.  I hesitated.  Again, I heard even louder….”Ask her how she feels about herself!”  I went ahead and followed through with the spiritual guidance and asked my client the direct question just as I heard it in my head.   With that, she said  if she moved to the east coast she would feel so proud of herself and excited about her growth and accomplishments.  After so many years of being stagnant and feeling low-self esteem, she finally started to gain confidence in her abilities.  Then she continued to say, if she stayed, she would feel like her old self from the past; not taking risks and hiding from challenges.  She admitted her feelings for her new relationship was wonderful, but I reminded her that was not the question. The question was, “How do you feel about yourself?”.  The answer to that question in making this decision would guide her in the right direction.

'Flower' by The holyhand grenade

Although my client admitted that she still wasn’t sure what she was going to do, it was refreshing to remember how far she’d come in her life.  She had spent so many years losing what she had gained; all due to sacrifices in taking risks on other people.  She never considered that this opportunity was the time for her to take a risk on herself.  She never considered how she felt about herself in this situation.  Her mind was so conditioned to only think of others, but at the expense of herself.   Her feelings for another person although strong would leave her feeling bad about herself.  What she wanted to know from me was if her bad feelings about herself would be worth it, if the other person had even stronger feelings for her.   I, fortunately was not able to answer that question, because it would not have given her the correct information to make a good decision.  She wanted to continue with her new romance, but now had to decide if it was worth it.  How she felt about herself taking the new job versus how she felt about herself staying for a growing romance revealed her truth.   It was obvious to me that she would be much happier taking the new job given the answer to the question about how she felt about herself. But I can never judge these situations. Was she ready for what she’d been asking for during all of these years?  Did she have the courage to take a chance on herself? Or would she continue the pattern of living her life through how another person feels about her instead of how she felt about herself?

Answering the question: “How Do I Feel About Myself” has helped me personally in a tremendous way.  It has given me additional insight into myself as well and it has given me very clear direction to more happiness.  However, similar to my client, whether I have the courage to go in that direction is a totally different blogpost.   Although the direction of happiness is there for us, we still must make that choice and also consider if we are ready for it.   I will have to visit the theme of courage on a different day, but for now learning how to recognize “HOW I FEEL ABOUT MYSELF” are tremendous first steps.

Thank you so much!

Shamalah-Allah

“Boundary” By Fang Guo 2006

Simply put, boundaries are a part of how we define ourselves each and every day.  Self-fulfillment comes from proper boundaries and standards we set for ourselves.  Break your boundaries and you’ve compromised your happiness in hopes of getting something back. Whether we can admit it or not, in the long-run, most people expect some kind of gain for compromising themselves.  Also, it can be a challenge to even determine what boundaries we have and often times we don’t even know what they are until after things have gone awry.  We break our boundaries everyday.  Such as, accepting food and gifts that we don’t want. Tolerating sex or someone touching us that we don’t want.  We allow other people to define our reality or maybe we expect people to fulfill our needs automatically.

But there is good news! There is no need to worry about whether or not you’ve compromised your boundaries.  We don’t even have to worry about whether we have unhealthy boundaries or not. It’s more important to look at the attitude we have while trying to figure out our boundaries.  If we can look at life as a series of trials and errors that help us to gain more knowledge to better interact with each other, then maybe we can be less judgmental about everything and allow ourselves and others to learn what boundaries are best for each individual.

My clients will call all of the time and fall madly in love with someone after meeting them for the first time and loose complete control.  It can be easy to forget that to appropriate trust is important while building a relationship.  Or many people will just expect and want intimacy from a person after a couple of dates, without realizing that intimacy is usually a step by step process.  Putting a new acquaintanceship on hold until we check for compatibility is one skill I personally have yet to master. Another good boundary skill to have is  revealing a little of ourselves at a time and then checking for the other person’s reaction.  However, this is not something that is just done over night.  It takes many experiences in life to recognize and enact our boundaries.  The message here is to stop, breathe and take the time to allow yourself to figure out what those boundaries are so that relationships can become more fulfilling and happy for you instead of an obligation.

Spiritual guidance is very good at assisting us with boundaries in all areas of our lives such as family, work and parental obligations.  And what about boundaries with our usage of food, alcohol, sex and prescription medications?  The list can go on, right? Although as humans we tend to spend a lot of time in fantasy and we act on impulse and emotions, meditation and following a spiritual practice can assist us in recognizing our boundaries and show us who we are inside. As we follow our own truth in recognizing these boundaries, we can then authentically share ourselves with others and attract better relationships that are real and not phony baloney. We can also have a much easier time living a healthier life that is not riddled with stress.

Once we’ve figured out and acknowledged our boundaries and can stick by them, we are living in our power.  Living in power is truly an attractive trait.

Aromatherapy Recipe for Healthy Boundaries

Put 3 drops of Geranium oil

Put 3 drops of Frankincense oil and

Put 1 drop of Rose oil

all into the same tea light candle.

Light the tea light candle.

Allow to burn all the way down and out (2-3 hours).

While the tea light candle burns, find a safe ,warm, quiet spot to enjoy the aroma that fills the air.  Sit for 5-10 minutes.  Ask your guardian spirits to come closer to you and impart their wisdom in recognizing healthy boundaries for your life. Rest and take refuge. Enjoy the silence.

With Happiness,

Shamalah-Allah

Psychic-Medium and Healer

shamalah.com

Dreams often times represent a toxic waste dump for all of the person’s unfulfilled thoughts, wishes and false hopes.  It may not actually have value unless proper action is taken. “Manifestation” is the preferred term we like instead of the word “dreams”.  Dreams in most cases (not all) represent wasted energy of thoughts without proper action tied to it.  These wasted thoughts get stuck in the mind to only relentlessly repeat itself until it becomes a big part of a regretful past.

As Angels, we spend a lot of time sifting through this junky pile of wasted thought forms and try to assemble it for you into a nice reality.  But sadly enough most people sink down into questioning their self-esteem and focus on fear.  Most wait for something to just fall out of the sky without taking any action steps.  The most common request we receive from our people is around new love and money.  Where is it?? We as Angels don’t know most of the time.  We search for love and money for you but instead find the wasted energy of dreams stuck in your head repeating over and over and over…

For dreams to be realized in the common everyday sense of the word, requires consistency in action and the ability to be flexible with goals and desires.  We don’t mind that you ask us for more money but are you willing to take proper action to acquire it?  As Angels we offer additional energy for you as human beings to feel the right feelings, such as: strength, desire, motivation, and courage to take action.  Often times we will even send you a mental picture or idea to carry out a plan to attain your so-called “dream”, but then you must actually “do it”.

As Angels we offer support and understanding for your desires, but financial wealth isn’t always necessary.  Utilization of current resources to gain an additional step toward better financial security is a more realistic task that one can easily perform in current time.  Action steps + short term goals accomplish feelings of high self-worth and forms new and healthier habits that last a lifetime.

Flowers: By Slithy

Instead of wishing and dreaming for a life partner, start going out and introducing yourself to new people.  Give us Angels something to work with.  How can we connect you to a compatible person if you mope at home every night and weekend.  How can you give another person your time when you think the world revolves around your schedule?

Dreams, in your understanding of the word, are really thoughts that you’d like to become reality. It is taking your thought and bringing it down into the physical everyday experience.  This act is not for the faint at heart.  It requires courage, persistent action, prayer and a willingness to change.

Shamalah-Allah does not care what you are seeking in your life.  If you ask the question, she will simply tell you what she sees and reflect back to you what you are creating for yourself.  If you are creating a garbage pail life, then she will tell you that you are creating garbage.  If you seek to re-direct yourself in a positive way, then you must ask for the help of your spiritual guidance: Master Teachers, Angels, Spiritual Guides and Ancestor Spirits.  They will give you guidance for the best path to take given your willingness to change.

Flowers: By billydl

Peace and Blessings,

Shamalah-Allah’s Master Teachers, Guides and ArchAngels

Eucalyptus oil is one of my favorite oils to use and mix with other oils.  Eucalyptus has an intrinsic medicinal use. It has expectorant properties and has an uplifting and warming effect.  It is used in so many medicines for upper respiratory conditions because it clears out viruses and bacterias.  It is considered an antiseptic.  So naturally when I use eucalyptus oil for my spiritual healing, it will naturally carry the essence or energy for cleansing and healing whatever is congesting your energy pathways to success.  I like to call them little traffic jams of energy that is floating around in your aura from work, family or from those stanky-janky people at work.  Little discords of thoughts and feelings can get trapped very easily in our heads.  These thoughts from our lives can get caught in our energetic body and sit and fester.

Do you every wonder why thoughts are repetitive inside of your head? Why you can’t seem to get what that person said out of your mind?  Why the past continues to haunt you even after it’s been worked out seemingly?  That’s because the by-product of that situation or it’s energy hasn’t completely vaccated your aura (the energy field that emminates outward from your phsycial body).   Even though a situation may have completed its cycle, there still can be residue left over from it – similar to ashes left after a fire.

Eucalyptus oil is great for cleaning out residual energy, it expells it out, just like it does medicinally for our congestion.

Eucalyptus oil is only one small example of how powerful aromatherapy can be.  Of course there are thousands of oils and scents that have varying effects.  Here is a list of only some of the common ones I use.

Lemon/Cinnamon/Patchouli/Rose/Chamomile/Cedarwood/Clary Sage/Clove/Frankincense/Geranium/Ylang-Ylang/Pine/Orange/Lavender/Tea Tree and many, many more.

Some of the magical oils I use:  Holy Spirit/Angels Speak/Clairvoyant Vision/Happiness/Joy/Road Opener/Overcoming Battles/Grounding/Gratitude/Secrets.

For anyone that knows my healing practice, I use a lot of magical and aromatherapy oils.  Working with these oils helps my clients connect with the thoughts and feelings that enhance healing.  Aromatherapy oils illicit smells that put us in the right mood; being in the right mood connects us to better focus and restores correct thinking to bring about more constructive action and therefore positive change and outcome.

As a metaphysical healer and spiritual teacher, I work a lot with energy or the essence of things.  Many people are amazed at how a psychic person could connect to accurate information without actually knowing anything. Well, what a psychic person is connecting to is the energy or “essence” of a person, place or thing.  Each object, person, or situaion is eminating an energy. Energy is invisible to our naked eye, but we all feel it and know it.  Energy is very close to our smelling senses.  None of us can “see” a smell but we know what a thing is by it’s scent.  Just as a psychic will know something by it’s energy.  If you smell chocolate chip cookies baking, you do not need to see it, to know that someone close by is baking them. If you can understand this chocolate chip cookie example, then you understand how energy and aromtherapy works.

On a different note, it is quite obvious that if a situation stinks, then the energy that it emits will stink.  If the person is loving, they will emit an energy that is loving.  The intrinsic nature of something will emit the essence of that which it is.  So a good business will naturally emminate from the good people, good product and good organization it is made up of, at least most of the time anyways.

Similarly, the energy from plants and flowers hold the same intrinsic value as its materialistic usage.  If a magical oil is used such as: “Road Opener” or “Holy Spirit” you as a spiritual practioner can then infuse the oil with your own intention and that oil then becomes ready for that use.  Many times the name alone of the oil has already been “marked” with it’s purpose.

You yourself can infuse oil with a purpose or energy that will now eminate and spread out into whatever situation you intend on spreading it out to.  Do not disbelief this.  Infusing an oil with your thought and intention holds the same power as the intention and thought that is behind the words that come right out of your mouth everyday.  Your thought is the power behind the words you speak.  The person receiving those words are also receiving the intention behind it.  That is why lying and honesty can be easily discerned by people because the words will feel balanced or it can feel discorded.  Magical oils give a “voice” to your intention not by words but by scent!  Interesting huh?!

So using the instrinsic value of natural floral and plant oils is very powerful and healing.  And infusing your own thoughts in the magical oils is also very powerful and healing. When infusing your own thoughts into your magical oils, be sure that you carry the right intention with the right emotion.  If you are creating a magical confidence oil – it won’t work if you are not feeling very confident that day.  However, when you do feel a glimmer of confidence, then that would be the time to hurry up and create that confidence oil to adequately capture that power for yourself and put it in the oil.  Putting your power in an oil only takes a second.  This is important because if you are belaboring your thoughts into an oil, then you are in fact saying that you do not trust what you are doing. You may be in fact negating the very thing you are trying to accomplish.  Sometimes though, meditating on your positive thoughts and intentions may actually give it strength and solidarity, so just be aware of what you are actually feeling as you are doing this practice.

For those of you who find praying to be difficult, putting your prayer and loving thoughts into an oil and taking that prayer and putting it into an action-step, such as creating an oil can give it strength and can be better heard by the Creator. The act of creating a “Holy Oil” through infusing it with your prayers automatically makes your prayers stronger because now you feel stronger by creating the oil, which has added a stronger and louder vibration to your prayer.  Again the loudness of you Holy Oil is dependant on how you felt and thought when creating it!

Hope this helps  you in understanding Aromatherapy and happy oil mixing!

Shamalah-Allah

Medium and Healer

shamalah.com

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Love is not to be toyed with.  It is a certain kind of energy that can actually move and change circumstances and people down to the very core.  It is a powerful force of nature. It feels much like a hurricane, a thunder boom or even an earthquake that rattles your very foundation.  We all need love as much as the breath of life itself.  And it is also necessary for our spiritual survival.  Without it, the very fabric of our ethereal existence begins to transmute and disintegrate into shadow.  Ever wonder why many ghosts appear as a shadow?  Because while roaming the earth in their own pain and hunger, they are lacking true love.  Their very essence begins to darken and may appear to us as a dark shadow without much form left.

But what kinds of love do you partake in? Do you share your love with others? Do you use your love to control other people’s actions?  Is your love minuscule? -only allowing little bits and pieces out at a time? Or is your love big and dripping with sexual desire allowing everyone in your path to partake in the experience of your obsession whether they want to or not! Ha!Ha!Ha!  (evil laugh sound effect)

Here is an interesting list of the kinds of love that I’ve experienced through the many readings that I’ve done over the years while working with clients.

(For purposes of this article I am focusing a little bit more on the romantic – marriage type of love, simply because that is the #1 focus of the readings when most clients call me)

1. Love that is shared with many men and women at the same time:  I call that Freedom Love

2. Great feelings of love with no timetables attached and no promises:  Uncommitted Love

3. Friendship Love: Very cool and long lasting.

4. Love with a little bit of “like” mixed in every now and again: It feels like a very balanced love to me.

5. There are feelings of love but not strong enough to invest money into it: Love is there but not suitable for marriage.

6. A very light feeling of love:  Love is there but not strong enough for a relationship.

7. Great love in the beginning and then it got stale: Usually a person new to love.

8. The love is there, then it isn’t, but maybe a little, but is it really love? Confused Love also known as “the grass is greener on the other side”complex.

9. I love you my way or the highway: Controlling love (may be in the form of parental love too)

10. I love you no matter what forever and ever: Unconditional Love, God’s Love, Love from your Pets

11. I love you so much I will sacrifice my life: A fool’s love or uncontrolled co-dependant love ( very self-destructive, yuck ! I hate it when I feel this one in a reading…)

12. A strong foundational higher love: Parental love (most of the time, not always)

13. Always gives love but don’t receive it back: Unrequited love, Karmic Love, Love that really really sucks!! ( I hate this one too, usually people can’t get the other person out of their heads. Ahhhhhh!!!!)

Love can be hard to understand. It requires a lot of work to understand.  I am definitely not claiming that I understand it completely myself.  However, I have some tips to help.  When we look at love, we can look at the heart, mind and spirit.  When we look at the heart let’s look at the emotional components: Are we feeling happy, worried, sick in the chest and stomach or all of the above?  Are you happy with this person or always afraid they will leave you? Are you at peace or are you feeling like you are always carrying a burden? Are you sexually attracted to this person?

Next let’s look at the mind or the mental aspects also known as the compatibility.  Do you really like this person? Do you respect them? Are they someone you can be proud of or are you ashamed of them in front of others, especially your family?  What is their character? Do they communicate? Or are you a part-time detective always having to decipher their “foreign language”?  Are they emotionally mature? Or are they a 12 year old child living in a 46 year old body?

Next the spiritual aspects.  The spiritual aspects can be quite difficult to understand simply because we are not taught spirituality in our everyday lives.  Usually when considering the spiritual components it can usually help in making a decision around love: These are questions to ask of yourself when considering love.

1. Do I care for my fellow human?

2. Do I have time to devote to my passion in life?

3. Do I actually need this person in my life?

4. Do I have time to care for others?

5. Do I have an understanding of my own self in connection to my community? In other words, have I found my place in society?

6. Do I have an understanding of God, Universal Love, Spirituality or a continuation of my life after what is so called death?

7. Have I accomplished most of my goals in life?

8. Do I like to help others?

9. Do I feel?

10. Do I like to talk and/or communicate or share my thoughts and feelings with another?

11. Do I like to play?

12.  Okay with #12 I’m cheating a little bit…it’s not totally spiritual, but I’m a spiritual-realist so…the final question is “Can I afford $$$ to love?” Guys if you’re reading this, you know what I’m talkin’ about!

The answers to these questions will give excellent insight into the development of yourself and other’s at the soul level.  It can also give a rough idea of where you are at in your own karmic cycle as far as love is concerned.  It can reveal your areas of blockages, responsibility and how much you are willing to give and receive in love.

We all need love- however not all forms of love may come in a pretty package.  Notice I did not provide much guidance as to the answers to these questions.  That is because the answers are your own to discover and to assess.   Just because it’s love doesn’t mean that it’s good for you.  Choose the right kind of love for yourself that fits for where you are at in your own life.  It’s about being honest with yourself.   The answer to these questions can help you to see better what kind of love you have in your life or what kind of love you may desire.

There are many psychics that can see a vision of what a person actually looks like. If I look into my crystal ball, I can see that your future lover has brown hair, brown, eyes and is probably about 5’10. Or if I look into my crystal ball I can see  you own a white cat and it’s name begins with the letter “T” etc… Okay that’s nice, only if you are working as a psychic detective, but other than that, who really cares??!!

We have our physical eyes to do that for us, hence with our physical eyes we can see what people look like and we already know that we have a white cat. Realize that when working on developing your psychic eye, you are actually developing your “knowing”  your understanding of a person or situation.  Your psychic eye will “see” beyond the physical and show you knowledge.  I have many psychic students that are very frustrated when developing their psychic eye because they can’t see the color of the person’s car or they can’t get the name of the boyfriend or they are unable to predict when that earthquake is supposed to happen.

Psychic vision is more about knowledge and understanding along with some physical attributes.  Many skeptics and Hollywood producers like to focus on the assumption that psychic vision is exactly the same as our physical eyes  but they are mistaken. It eludes most people if they assume the psychic eye is the same as our physical eye because it’s not; it’s gives you so much more! And if you are trying to develop your psychic abilities to produce the same results as your physical senses you will sabotage your progress and most likely give up all together.To develop true psychic ability, you must meditate and sit in silence for about 10 minutes a day. Then practice with a person you know or don’t know.  Have that person ask you a question about anything. Then allow your psychic eye or your senses to tell you inside your mind what it knows.

Your psychic eye will use the same part of your brain that uses your imagination skills to relay complex situations so be very, very open to receiving imaginary pictures. Your psychic eye will also sense energy so be very, very open to feeling information as well. What your psychic eye knows may be in the form of a picture, thought, feeling, sensation, sensing of a smell or it may not know anything around the question asked, so the person will have to ask a different question. Not knowing is also good, maybe there isn’t anything there to actually know that is information too!

Always make sure to ask your spirit guides and angels to be with you before opening yourself up to receiving psychic information, this is super-duper important.

Crystal Ball Shining by Anderson Smith 2010

Allow yourself to practice for about one good year on an almost daily basis. The learning curve for your brain is about one year. This is because our society does not support this knowledge as a whole so emotionally and psychologically it can be an uphill battle. Especially when trying to find people to practice with.

Here is an example of what a practice session might be like:

Student Psychic #1: ” Ask your question.”

Practice Person #2: ” When will my money start improving?”

#1: ” I don’t know, I’m not getting anything….ask a different question” (after about 1 min. of trying)

#2: ” Okay, I guess what I really want to know is, will I ever get a raise on my job?”

#1: ” Hmmmm, interesting I’m starting to feel something but I can’t tell what I’m feeling, give me a couple of minutes to match the right words with what I’m feeling…”

#2: “Okay”  (2-5 minutes later)

#1: ” Okay, I feel nervous and I sense a gap in time, I don’t sense a supervisor and I can’t sense any other co-workers around you. I then got a picture of a house and a then a room in the house and then I got a picture of you talking on the phone a lot at home? And then I got a picture of an ice cream cone?

#2: “Hey that makes a lot of sense…at work, they can’t seem to find a new supervisor, it’s been 6 months.  I’m too scared to ask the manager at work for a raise because she’s a @#$%&;! so I get nervous a lot. I think a lot about working from home and having my own consulting business. I did not understand the ice cream cone part though, I mean, I do like ice cream but…”

#1: “WOW, that was weird, it felt like I didn’t know what I was saying or what I was talking about. It just felt like random thoughts and pictures were floating around. I didn’t feel sure about anything, but, you didn’t understand the ice cream cone part of what I said?”

#2: “No, not really, but oh well, everything else made perfect sense to me…I have another question”

#1: ” Hey wait a minute time is money honey, I will have to charge you for my time, hee-hee!!”

#2: “After about a year of practice at this rate, I’m sure you can!”

Reflection By Anderson Smith

The Psychic Eye will always reflect “ADDITIONAL INFORMATION ONLY”  it will never tell you everything. It is a limited ability just like all of the other parts of your body. It only has a certain capacity to give information. Each person’s capacity is different depending on life experience, amount of meditation done and number of years in practicing.  People who are humble usually can detect the information from their own psychic eye better than a person that needs to always be in control.  That is because the information you are receiving from the person or event cannot be controlled. Knowing information psychically must be observed and not judged in order to report what you are “seeing” with accuracy.  A person who needs to be in control will want to add their own opinions and will judge it to be right or wrong and will therefore infect the psychic eye with their own information. Very tricky, but true!

The Psychic Eye is not perfect but it is intelligent.  Your Psychic Eye is connected to your karma and the other person’s karma you are seeing for; so what you see or know is only what you are able to see and know according to your level of consciousness and soul’s development.

The Psychic Eye does not go beyond God’s Vision which is a person’s FREEWILL.  Whether you believe in God or not at least believe in FREEWILL.  This is why the Psychic Eye or your knowledge around a situation will never be perfect, complete or final.  Your “Second-Sight” will always be dependant upon who you are reading, what your mood is that day, how much you slept, prayed, meditated and the ever-changing circumstances swirling around our world.  How much you “see” for someone will also depend extensively on how much that individual is open to receiving the information. Quite often people think they want to hear information but what they really want to hear is simply what  ”they want to hear”. The Psychic Eye moves and is fluid and is in constant motion.  It is meant to assist, never to determine.

Remember a psychic eye cannot see beyond what the person has already set in motion for themselves or what surrounding circumstances are already in motion. It is only a reflection of what has already been created with respects to past, present and the ever-forming future. It is a reflection.

“Hey Shamalah-Allah, When will I get married?”

My Answer: “As soon as you start going out and meeting people, I will then be able to see.”

“Hey Shamalah-Allah, When will I find a job?”

My Answer.” As soon as you start looking for a job, I can then see when you will find one.”

“Hey Shamalah-Allah, “I’ve started my own business, do you see it doing well?”

My Answer. ” Yes, I see you are consistent with your actions, spend money wisely and have chosen a much needed service, therefore you will be financially prosperous, just give it a few more months and stay steady!”

Consciously or unconsciously you create your destiny, not the psychic.

With Lots of Giggles,

Shamalah-Allah, Clairvoyant Medium and Healer

shamalah@shamalah.com

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It’s official. You are in a fight. It is with your mother, father, brother, sister, in-law, boyfriend, girlfriend, neighbor, dog, cat, lover, teacher, husband, wife.  Fighting is never fun and we usually do not have it on our “To Do List”. However, fighting can give you a better perspective about yourself without intending on it.  Many times when we fight it is usually over a control issue; it’s not about what they want, it’s about what you want. Simple math.  During the fight there are things you want that you can’t get, right? For example: He won’t marry me. He wants a commitment and I don’t.  She is probably still in love with her ex.  He’s holding back his feelings.  My daughter can’t get on the sports team. My son isn’t listening to me. My sister is selfish. My brother won’t loan me the money. My wife is spending all my money. My husband won’t work. She’s controlling. He’s lazy.  He doesn’t love me. The dog won’t “sit”. The cat won’t stop meowing. How do you resolve this? Maybe you don’t.

Often times, by the time I have a person call for a reading, they have been fighting with their situation for several months and many times several years.  And yes, there could be communication issues going on that make it so that the fighting does not stop.  And yes, it could be that you are right and they are wrong. But does that really matter? You still are not getting what you want.  Coping with the truth behind the “fight” could be what we are really avoiding. In other words maybe you are fighting the truth.  Let’s take the same statements made earlier and say it a different way.

1. He won’t marry me. “That’s because he doesn’t want to marry you”

2. She doesn’t love me. “That’s because she doesn’t love you.”

3. He wants a commitment and I don’t. “That’s because you simply don’t want to commit”

4. She is probably still in love with her ex. “That’s because she is still in love with her ex”

5. He’s holding back his feelings. “That’s because he holds back his feelings”

6. My daughter can’t get on the sports team. “That’s because she can’t get on the sports team”

7. My son isn’t listening to me. “That’s because your son doesn’t listen”

8. My sister is selfish. “That’s because your sister is selfish”

9. My brother won’t loan me the money. “That’s because he doesn’t want to loan you the money”

10. My wife spends all of my money. “That’s because your wife spends all of your money”

11. My husband won’t work. “That’s because your husband won’t work”

12. She’s controlling. “That’s because she is controlling”

13. He’s lazy. “That’s because he is lazy”

14. He doesn’t love me. “That’s because he doesn’t love you”

15. The dog won’t sit. “That’s because you didn’t train the dog to sit”

16. The cat won’t stop meowing. “That’s because you won’t let the cat out”

Okay scratch the last two examples.  The point is, is that we are not dogs and cats. We are people that usually know what we want and know what we are doing.  We know that we don’t want to do something. We know we didn’t return that call, or we know we don’t really love that person.  We know that we are lazy or can be selfish.  Often times we know who we are and what we are doing.  When we fight we are usually in some kind of denial about the truth about ourselves or about another person.

Shoes, Shadows, Stone and Sunlight by iNkMan

It is important when fighting or even after the fight to possibly look at why the fight keeps recurring. Are you unwilling to look at what is just simply there?

Many times the ACTIONS of the person really give it all away as the truth.  It is the WORDS that are untruly spoken to us that mess with our minds.  You know the old saying: “Actions speak louder than words”.  Just because the person you are fighting with is in denial of their true position, doesn’t mean you have to be in denial too.

Step out of the fighting and discover the true information you are actually searching for in the fight.  By the time you come into acceptance of the true circumstance, it can help you understand why and then move forward to a resolution. Maybe the resolution is simply a new understanding within yourself.

Let’s see what the Angels have to say about fighting:

{Channeled Information from the Angels}

Fighting does not show you how to resolve things. It is only the beginning to understanding the circumstances you are in. When we fight, we are seeking truth.  For truth is not what we see but is simply what exists. The ignorance of truth is what binds us to a problem, hides the solution and passes the time away into regret and misunderstandings.  Truthful actions are not always a person’s best asset.  Truthful actions with honest words is a trait worth seeking in others.  Speaking in truth and proper display of actions in total concert with each other is something we all need to strive for. For people are complex. There are past relationships and purposes to circumstances that can be outside of your control. We cannot control other beings like animals in cages.  We must accept that changes occur outside of your will and people cannot always control their emotions.  Life is not fair but karmically balanced.  Sometimes the truth is something that we can cherish and it can help us learn a trait about ourselves that we didn’t know was there: WISDOM.

Much of your soul’s path is toward wisdom.  Much of the time the truth can be painful, but it can also become a path to happiness.

{End Channelling}

Look below at some possible ideas that can lead to wisdom: These are only my own ideas; it’s not perfect:

1. He won’t marry me. “That’s because he doesn’t want to marry you” – There is another who will, go find him.

2. She doesn’t love me. “That’s because she doesn’t love you.” – There is another who will, go find her.

3. He wants a commitment and I don’t. “That’s because you simply don’t want to commit” – Enjoy your freedom.

4. She is probably still in love with her ex. “That’s because she is still in love with her ex” – Honor and bless it.

5. He’s holding back his feelings. “That’s because he holds back his feelings” – Allow him to find his way and practice good listening skills while he practices how to articulate his feelings (fingers crossed on that one!)

6. My daughter can’t get on the sports team. “That’s because she can’t get on the sports team” – Her talents lie elsewhere, help her look for it.

shadows in harmony by withrow

7. My son isn’t listening to me. “That’s because your son doesn’t listen” – Teach him how to listen, by listening to him. (at least until he’s 18, after that, I’m not sure…)

8. My sister is selfish. “That’s because your sister is selfish” – Appreciate that you are a giving person and demonstrate that gift! (only if you really feel like it, otherwise, she’s a selfish person, don’t look for something that isn’t there)

9. My brother won’t loan me the money. “That’s because he doesn’t want to loan you the money” – Discover other resources for financial support, there are always other options. (perhaps you need to learn how to manage and save your money)

10. My wife spends all of my money. “That’s because your wife spends all of your money”- Sit down together and figure out how you both can spend it more wisely.(or create a separate back-up bank account for emergencies).

11. My husband won’t work. “That’s because your husband won’t work” – Sorry, can’t help you there! (maybe find another more responsible companion).

12. She’s controlling. “That’s because she is controlling” – She probably just needs more of your loving attention, give it to her! (or find someone that loves you simply as you are).

13. He’s lazy. “That’s because he is lazy” – Perhaps he is lacking in confidence, give encouragement, in the meantime allow him to discover the consequences of such behaviour. (with lazy people we can usually thank their mother’s for that one.  They spoiled their child and created a lazy person; find someone else! sorry…)

14. He doesn’t love me. “That’s because he doesn’t love you”- :Take on a new adventure and find romance and passion again. There are plenty of men looking for it, they call me asking where they can find love too!

15. The dog won’t sit. “That’s because you didn’t train the dog to sit” – Teach and love your dog how to behave lovingly.

16. The cat won’t stop meowing. “That’s because you won’t let the cat out” – Play and participate in loving activities with your cat! Most cats enjoy fresh air and at least some outside time.

Too much energy put into fighting can destroy your mind and your luster for live. Allow the fighting to show you a passageway to better understanding and more importantly better action to get to a happier daily existence for yourself.  Good Luck. I know I need it!

Love and Light,

Shamalah-Allah

Clairvoyant Medium and Healer

LIFE EVENTS=CYCLES

MENTAL EVENTS+ LIFE EVENTS=CYCLES

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There are events that occur in the mind that are considered cycles. Life events also occur in cycles.  Life events are simply reflections of events that have occurred in the mind.  For example, when we conclude a relationship, such as in divorce, we have decided to end a cycle of development within our minds.  We perhaps developed trust within a partnership which may preclude us to develop a sense of belonging.  This relationship then advanced our mind in a direction of learning the value of taking time to be with others.  Once we’ve learned how to belong and hence now know how to make time for others, we may not need the relationship that created the circumstances for our learning.  So we will end the relationship once it has served its purpose.

Perhaps a baby is born and its life ended quickly, maybe after only a few weeks.  That baby’s life cycle was shortened because it only needed to learn how to adjust to the earth plane. Once it feels comfortable in our atmosphere, it will leave and perhaps decide later to come back and live to full adulthood, or not.  Not all souls will want to come here to learn.  A soul may feel inhibited about incarnating in our dimension, so it may try it out for a week or so and then leave (die).  That short experience with the baby on earth helps us all to learn how precious life is and to value it.  Choices are being made at different levels of consciousness, not just by what we see and think on the physical level.

These are concepts one should know because it is how life cycles work.  Many think of life cycles as the physical or numerical age of a person.  Spiritually, life cycles are determined by the experiences one has lived through as well as their level of understanding within their mind.  For example, a person may have a problem with telling the truth.  The experiences in their lives will reflect that level of consciousness, which is that of a liar.  However, they may not have completed that cycle of experience within their mind; they may still find great value in lying.  Therefore, the experiences in their life will reflect back as events a liar would have.  Maybe one day the liar may not see a value in lying anymore. Or the liar may continue seeing the value of lying and continue to do so.  We cannot assume that this person will change, they may not want to; therefore we respect and listen to what that person has chosen to do.  Once their mind has completed that cycle of experiences and learning, they may rely more on telling the truth.  Once that mental cycle is completed, there is a change in their life from that of a liar to someone that is more truthful or maybe not. Maybe they will still lie a lot, just not as much as before.

There are always varying degrees of how things change.  Just don’t ever expect the change to be to the level of your preference.  The level of change will always be equal to the level of one’s consciousness, whatever that might be. If they decided to be more truthful, they are first truthful to themselves and then to others.  We cannot judge how long the cycles last or at what age it should or should not be completed or begun. Cycles of learning can last for many lifetimes.  People who have worked with me long enough know to ask if someone in their life will change enough to a degree of compatibility “in this lifetime!”.  Yes, cycles of learning often times continue from this lifetime onto the next.  For the most part….what you see is what you get as far as people are concerned. Change at the mental and spiritual levels take lifetimes before it can be expressed consistently on a physical level.  You can often tell what changes has truly taken place by looking at the life events, that is the reflection of their mental learning and hence spiritual evolvement or de-evolvement- Remember that!

There is no need to judge.  The level of consciousness can evolve or de-evolve.  Each person decides for themselves which road to take in what they want to create for themselves.  Not all souls are interested in evolving as many may assume; therein lies our skill in discerning who to let in or to keep out of our lives.  If a person or situation is compatible for you, then great.  If it is not compatible for you, then choose differently so the outcome can be better in your life.  Drama does not need to necessarily play out negatively in your life.  Simply choose differently and consider the events in your life as a reflection of your level of consciousness, good or bad.

Change does not always happen, it is not always necessary, sometimes it occurs only when you are ready.

Greenfields Article by Shamalah-Allah Clairvoyant Medium and Healer

   There are tons of thoughts that race through our minds each minute of the day. But do you ever think to wonder where does all of those thoughts go?  It just makes me tremble to think about it! I thought of natural disasters happening the other day and also about a baby dying.  There are things that go through my mind and I don’t even know where it comes from.  Sometimes I have random thoughts about cars racing or a tree falling.  Other times I will remember about a fight I had with my mom or I’ll have a thought about how lucky I was that I didn’t run over that kid that suddenly jumped in the street.  Some thoughts I have are more positive, like when I first walked my little doggie Nikki when she was a little puppy or how I first learned Reiki.  I also think about how grateful I am for a warm place to sleep at night and how my immune system had improved so much over the years.  It feels so good not to get colds and flus several times a year anymore.  I also will notice how beautiful my plants are and how I love my little beta fish Sophie who somehow has lived for 3 years!: I do Reiki on her, don’t tell anyone!   ;  )  

     The thoughts I have everyday definitely can put me in a mood and the mood part is where I will focus.  Our moods definitely dictates how are day will go and also how it went.  We cannot always control our moods as well as the wise old sages will say to do.  I mean we can meditate all we want but if our father died and we think and remember that, I gather anyone will feel a lump in their chest about it.  Or if we remember how we lost our job, we can’t help but feel anger or upset about how that even went down.  So many times I would,  if I could control  all of my emotions, but I just can’t! Why?  Because we are emotional beings. Emotions are a fact and we can’t escape it. I mean, God created tear ducts in our eyes for a reason. Emotions are a gage for us and a reflection of the events that have touched our lives.  When we think of a good memory, say a walk on the beach with a lover, those happy times definitely will automatically crack a small smile.  That emotional reaction is a gage that tells us about that event.  So, we don’t deny our emotions whether they are good or bad.  Our thoughts will definitely illicit emotions and we allow those emotions to be just that, a reflection of what we are going through and what we have been through.

Happy or Sad? by MyLifeStory

      So granted, we all have happy and sad thoughts and those thoughts illicit happy and sad emotions. So where does all of our thoughts go? Well, they go where you send them, either intentionally or unintentionally. And guess how those thoughts travel? Through the air, literally. After they are sent through the air, it lands inside of houses, objects, places, animals, plants and people.  But the effect of our thoughts mostly affects ourselves and goes straight into our physical body more so than anything else. Just think about that job interview you just had.  Did you feel good or bad, worried perhaps? Excited? Doubtful? – Well, those are the vibes you are sending to your interviewers and to your physical body.  Was your stomach queasy or did your head hurt after the interview?  That’s where the thought went- to your head. Okay, now let’s talk about that exam you just took?.  Do you feel confident that you received a good grade or are you hoping that you at least passed.  How does you body feel while you are experiencing those emotions.  Does your head hurt? Is your back tense? Or do you feel happy and light that you know you aced it?  Your body received those thoughts.  If you know you didn’t do well on the exam, but know in your heart that you did your best, are you feeling at peace with yourself? That peace you feel goes into your body.  Okay so now lets talk about your children, if you have them.  Do you love them? Or do you hate them because it was a big mistake that you ever had them?  Now is not the time to be in denial about your true thoughts.  Recognize the truth with it and notice where the emotion from that thought goes in your body. First of all, if you love or hate your kids, the thoughts were already sent to them multiple times.  The thoughts are sent to them as many times as you thought it, whether it be love, hate or any other thought.  That is how we all have a sense about things, even though no one actually said anything.  No one had to say anything because it was already communicated in the thought!

     People will say, now wait a minute Shamalah-Allah, just because  I thought I hated my spouse for one second doesn’t mean I hate them.  I mean we all have those kinds of thoughts now and then, so what? Well, the “so what” about it is when we do not recognize them and release them.  Many physically and psychological ailments are connected to emotional stresses experienced in the mind and body.  These stresses were experienced, yes.  But they were not recognized, honored as valid, and then not processed, and then finally released.  How many of us have experienced being dumped by a girlfriend or boyfriend without a proper explanation and we were left hurt and dismayed.  Those emotions continue to stay with us and recycles in our heads, over and over and over and over! Sometimes for many times for years before it is finally gone.  Or maybe that pain just stays with us.  The pain that stays with us keeps creating a stress inside of the body.  The emotional stress can be placed in our knees, heart, head, stomach or any place in the body.  Usually the head and stomach areas are pretty popular. Sometimes the pain can move around and travel throughout the body. You may think you are crazy when you experience a travelling pain in your body but it is as real as the sun is shining.  That stress is travelling around because it is looking for an escape out!

     So the idea is not to say you should not have experienced the thoughts or emotions. Whether we even label it as good or bad is really not important either.  We each will label our own emotions as good or bad and experience it as such.  The idea, is to say that you experienced it, recognize it and figure out how to release the thoughts and emotions that are not serving you in a constructive manner.  If we can figure out the root of our pain and fix it, then great.  Many times we may not be able to right away.  It can take time for a problem to work itself out.  It can take time for us to change our thoughts in our minds.  Sometimes no matter what we do, we can”t change how we feel, we just fee it and that’s it! So the point is to do something to release it so that we don’t continue to allow the thought and emotional stress to build and build and build.

   Releasing thoughts and emotional stress from the air and body are two different things.  In my previous blogs, I talk about burning the black candle, burning white sage and imagining the  yellow flame.  All methods use the element of fire.  Fire is a wonderful element that can destroy any unwanted vibrations in the air. Please refer to those blog entries to assist you in neutralizing the unwanted thoughts that you may be unintentionally sending or receiving.  But what about our body? You can’t light a flame to that?! We don’t want to burn ourselves up.  For our body, we must do physical movements (air and earth element) and use the element of water to cleanse the stress out.

Happy Sad by Xinem

One of the best physical movements I know of to do is none at all. I let someone else do it for me ’cause I get so depressed sometimes, I can’t even move myself. It’s called a massage.  I especially get my feet done.  I go to a Reflexologist every other week.  And if you haven’t tried one yet, then I suggest you get crackle lackin’ on it now….  Another physical method of getting rid of stress is straight-up exercise. That could be lifting weights or gentle yoga. I’m not going to talk about exercise, it is rather a weak point for me personally, but you all know what exercise is about.  The times that I do exercise, it is very helpful to me, especially for my joints that like to make a creaking noise.  Another form of great stress relieve is the jacuzzi! And if you don’t have one, I am very, very sorry about that.  I have one in the apartment complex  where I live and I take full advantage.  Even if someone is already in there, I don’t care, I jump in anyway, because my situation is at that point!  Also a good hot/cold shower or bath can be just as healing.  Water is extremely healing and does wonders for your physical body.  I know some people may take 2 or 3 showers a day just to run the water through to alleviate congested emotional stress.  Massage, Exercise and Running Water.  These are very simple accessible things that any of us can do to combat the incessant thoughts that plague our minds everyday.

     If you don’t have time to meditate or just can’t and you haven’t reached true enlightenment yet, well here are some ways to help alleviate the pain along the way! Remember: Run the water, move the body. Run the water, move the body!

Hope this helps. Now I’m off to go take a walk ’cause my right hip is stiff  :  )

Hugs,

Shamalah-Allah

One of my long-time clients asked me this question: How Do I Know When Loved Ones That Have Passed On To Spirit Are Around Me?

So I asked her…

Do you have conversations in your dreams about this person?
she says, yes.

Do you suddenly have a thought and feeling that they are around you?
she says, yes.

Do you hear common things they would have said to you, echo in your mind?
she says, yes.

So I says to her, there you go! That’s how you know!

But, Shamalah! I can’t really hear or see them, so I how do I really know for sure?

How do you know when you are in love?
How do you know when you miss someone?
How do you know when you are inspired?
How do you know when you found the right answer?

You FEEL IT, that is how you know.

There are countless other forms of communication from our loved ones, it is not just limited to the above mentioned three ways; but our American culture does not accept our FEELINGS as a legitimate source of information, yet it is the motivating force behind everything we know and do. Remember all of those times you have felt something that motivated you to do something or to have a relationship with someone. Wasn’t that real?

When someone has died, their physical body is gone but their Spirit is still alive and well. That part of us that is thinking and Feeling and Knowing is the closest way for me to describe our Spirits. It’s sort of like, no matter how much older we get we still feel the same inside right? We still feel like we are ourselves. Remember I said “we still FEEL” the same?? Well, that is yourself, that part of yourself that survives death.

Because they are no longer in the physical vibration of existence, loved ones cannot communicate that same as they did in the physical body. So if your looking for something physical, like sitting down to dinner, or a big fat sloppy kiss, you’ll be very disappointed. Our loved ones talk to us in non-verbal ways; they communicate to us in ways that involve thought, dreams, feelings, and knowing, because those forms transcend the physical plane and that is what can make contact with our loved ones that have transcended the physical.

I always give people this simple example: We all know that dogs wag their tails when they are happy. It is a different form of communication, because they don’t have the same muscle structures and vocal cords in their bodies, but we as human beings have learned that when dogs are happy they wag their tails. They can’t smile or laugh, how ridiculous is that! So too with our loved ones. They can no longer physically speak or physically do things like us any longer here on the earth plane; there are the other aforementioned methods of keeping in touch with you. So instead of questioning it, learn it, accept it and look for the common patterns that you notice within your personal experiences.

If you had one experience with a communication from a loved one and it is hard to accept, then fine, we can say it was your imagination. But if it happens again, in the same sort of way OR in a different way with the same message attached to it, then BINGO!!! That is a pattern and you can have confidence that your loved one is speaking with you. So enjoy it and talk back!

And so how does all of this happen? How is it all possible? The answer is simple… LOVE. That powerful emotion, feeling, force, bond, energy, whatever you want to call it, makes it possible to still connect. All of you ladies out there, know what I mean! (And the other few oh so wonderfully aware gentlemen.) We know and feel when our loved one is thinking about us, and they are not dead, they are well alive….they are just not calling us by phone, right?

Don’t belittle or ignore the signs, this is very real just like your feelings are real. The dreams, thoughts, feelings, sudden memories, sudden usual sayings, and even sudden mental pictures are all real methods of speaking with you.

I hope this has helped all of you. Remember, keep those questions coming in!

Thank You, Suzanne for your question…
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Thank you all for reading.

Love, Shamalah-Allah

{photo: Together, by Bruno Bolzano)